When you don’t know what to do about your marriage, it’s painful and exhausting. You got married believing this was your forever relationship, but now it doesn’t feel like that and you’re contemplating splitting up. You don’t know how you ended up here or what to do next.
There is a way forward
I help mums figure out if their marriage can make it so they can give it one last chance.
I know it hurts to think that your marriage might be heading for the rocks. You’ve got a million thoughts and what-ifs going round your head, so you can’t concentrate, can’t sleep, can’t focus on what matters to you. It’s confusing, it’s scary and it’s lonely to try and handle on your own.
But you don’t have to do it on your own.
Can My Marriage Make it Checklist
If you’re wondering whether your marriage has a future, this checklist will help you get clearer
Some of the mums I've worked with have kindly shared their experience
"When we began our sessions I couldn’t imagine spending the rest of my life with my husband. And then felt guilty for even thinking about splitting up.
Now I understand my marriage more, I feel stronger and better about myself. I feel confident I can handle whatever happens."
"I now know I’m giving my marriage it’s best chance. Through the work we’ve done together, I know I’ll have given everything I can to save my marriage.
I no longer feel scared by the thought that maybe we won’t make it. And I’m not constantly thinking and worrying about my marriage. Which makes it much easier for me to do what I need to do to give my marriage one last chance."
"I felt like I’d lost me. Life was so busy doing everything for everyone else, that I stopped being me. And started to think that my marriage and life was no longer enough.
I’ve now learnt that it’s ok to put me first as well. At work, in my family as well as in my marriage.
Now I feel adaptable and resilient and can face whatever life throws at me."
The Art & Science of Marraige
Carol Fare’s Blog
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